Oh Gary, you are one of those amazing people whose depth of character revealed itself slowly over time, and never seemed to find a limit. Generosity, kindness, wry wit, and so so so protective of truth, justice, and the vulnerable. How you loved the young men who sought help for problem porn use! I had the blessing of attending a weekly meeting with you and you never lost sight of compassion and empathy for the challenges boys and young men face as they navigate the pornographized world.

You cared for girls and women too -- you were the first resource I ever found that highlighted the struggles that females face with porn, and I build all my remaining resources on your excellent foundation. When I wanted to give you credit you said no, don't mention it. You were not corrupted by ego and jockeying for position, you just gave and gave. I am thinking of the Shel Silverstein poem "The Giving Tree." It breaks my heart to know that I can't give you anything now. But I can carry on your legacy, and I will to the best of my ability, as long as I live.

Thank you Gary, for being you. You set the bar for all men. You were a once in a lifetime friend. I carry you in my heart and now think: WWGD? What would Gary do? And I try to do that. Much love to your amazing wife Marnia and your very cool son Arion.